Grieving the Loss of a Grandchild
The loss of a grandchild during pregnancy or stillborn can be as devastating to them as to the infant's parents. Grandparents hurt twice. They have lost a grandchild, and they ache in their heart for their adult child who has lost a baby.
If you are a grandparent who has experienced infant loss, please know your feelings of shock, disbelief, frustration, anger, powerlessness and sadness are to be expected. There are things you can do, however, to help manage these feelings and help your family during this time of loss.
- Grandparents can be a great comfort in the storm of grief by allowing the parents to just talk about their loss and not try to "fix" the situation or make a lot of suggestions.
- Use the baby's name. The parents may cry but many parents want to hear their baby's name.
- Talk with your other grandchildren about the baby. Their parents may not be able to give the support they would like to give to their living children.
- Remember special days in a special way.
- Try to find someone you trust to talk to, including others who have lost grandchildren and survived. They may be great support in this journey if you look for them. Franciscan Health also offers pregnancy loss support services.
- Remember to take good care of yourself, too.
- Hold onto the hope that one day you and your family will enjoy life again.